We all have a child within

Each human being has been a child, some still are. But this is not the point of this blog! Haha

Did you know that every human child is like a tape recorder for the first 7 years? This already starts when they are still in the womb of their mother! Absorbing all the impulses from their environment. From the voices that they hear, the energy that they feel, behavior from the people that they are surrounded by,... Patterns and habits that we all carry into our adulthood.

After those 7 years we start to slowly develop into our own personality that uses these first years as a foundation to build their personality on. Often these automatic programs become so natural that we forget about it and see it as our natural way of being.

How many times have all of us already heard the excuse: “It’s not my fault that I am who I am.” Or, “This is just me, I can't change anything about this.” Even I had moments like this when I was in my teenage years. But even that none of this has been our fault. This is the preset that we were given when we entered this human body and life experience we were embarking on. So eventually there comes the time that each individual reaches a point in their life where they become responsible for the continuation that they will give to this present.

None of us have been taught about this, or at least not in my experience. Unless you were lucky to have parents, family or a therapist that knew this from their own experience in life. But just like my mom always likes to say, none of us come out of the womb with an instruction manual!

Also not to forget that we will lose most of our memories from our earliest years and not even remember where specific patterns come from. But the thing is that we can reprogram those patterns and habits. It only takes honesty with oneself and dedication to step out of our comfort zone. Recognize the child within that will always be there for each person, give it love and attention again instead of taking life so seriously like it is expected to be in society.

Because even as grown-ups, this child inside is probably still traumatized on a certain level and has been neglected for years to decades if not more for some people. How would you children react when you neglect them for such a long time? Would they rebel? Would they be happy? Would they feel loved? I guess that this answer is easy to fill in if you put yourself in the shoes of a child.

That’s why as an adult it is still important to find joy in the things we do, to find love for the people around us and the life that was given to us. Instead of losing ourselves in a society where we are just working around the clock to pay our bills and take care of our family or ourselves till the point that we are just working to survive instead of thriving.

In my experience these inner children are very powerful when you live in harmony with them, because they are our source of joy and harmony, purity and love. You know, I don’t believe that we are here to take life so seriously, because then we lose our magic touch towards our lives and the world we live in. We’ve been lied to for so long that we need to follow specific expectations to become a valuable asset to society, to gain respect of our family or even to not put our family into shame because of our own choices, which is for some cultures very important. Think about Chinese and Japanese culture for example. Almost like we are not allowed to enjoy our life and express our deepest feelings. Or in religion, for me Christianity comes to mind, “don’t even think about joy, because Christ was crucified for the sins of humanity.” Or simply the idea of the need to suffer to justify the reason for a lack of joy or you will go to hell. Because you had sexual interactions or went on many different adventures to experience your human nature. Or even have a divine connection without the need of a third party like the church to communicate or feel connected with God/source, whatever you like to call it. I could keep on rambling on this part, but that is not bringing me to the point of this text. I know it’s way more complex. But do you get where I’m going with this?

Over the years that I have experienced this life a lot has changed and it looks like there is a lot more to change for the future ahead. We’ve been witnessing many changes that none of us could have imagined and I can only embrace this from my perspective. I love it, I’m grateful for it with all the bright experiences and the dark experiences. Through this journey through a complete spectrum over and over again, this is what created the personality and life that I am privileged to experience.

Do I live the perfect life? No, I also still have my struggles and problems to work on. Only the perspective changed. I see opportunities to grow today where I used to see problems that were holding me back. I don’t care so much anymore what other people expect of me or what others think of me. I love to express my deepest inner experiences and insights. That has led me back to a joyful and peaceful life. Where I’m able to flip around my misery into gratitude. Simply being grateful for what I have instead of staring myself blind on what I want and comparing myself to my other people in my environment and social media. And does this mean that I’m free now from the things I’ve described, well yes and no. I simply learned that I have a choice each day and that I can always make that choice again. And this is a daily practice from my experience. The path of growth and personal development is one that never ends, it will change form and it will change in dynamic, but they all hold a deeper perspective of understanding and learning more.. I don’t think we are meant to understand the full spectrum of existence because we are merely a splinter or tiny part of consciousness that desires to experience itself. And I chose love and want to continue from love. Embracing the full spectrum of all that is and being open to whatever that comes around the next corner.

Why do I share this? Because I believe that this is available to everybody if you want to experience life from this perspective. And definitely this will trigger and raise questions from your environment. But what is the most important for you? To live unhappily in a place and amongst people that are liking you for the role you play as an actor to find love and approval or do you rather unleash your authentic self and let your world transform into an environment where you can just be you and share it with loved ones that love you and accept you for who you truly are?

A beautiful movie that comes to my mind now is “Hook”, the movie that tells the story of Peter Pan played by Robin Williams. To my feelings this movie is a beautiful representation of the insight that I share here in this blog.

How do you experience this or reflect this perspective into your own life experience? 

How do you feel about your own inner child?

Wouldn’t you like to live a life from a place of joy and wonder instead of an ice cold world?

Remember, we always have a choice!

With love and gratitude,
Nick